What Defines A Good Leader
March 2nd, 2010What really defines a good leader?
How do You Become a Good Leader?
What are the Traits of a Good Leader?
Why should people follow you?
Why should anyone ever listen to you and your opinion?
In order for anyone to follow us, we have to be a good leader. We have to exude the trait that make people sit up and pay attention. We must earn and respect and protect their trust in us. In business…In life…we have to lead in order to have anyone do what we would like them to do.
To me it comes down to four essential ingredients
· Being centered and grounded
· Having the ability to take action
· Being tough minded
· Being a good communicator
Who are you?
Are you a leader?
Let’s take a look into what I believe makes a great leader. These are traits of high emotional intelligence as well.
Successful leaders are always grounded and centered. They are always in a stable mood and are seen as dependable, not erratic or unpredictable. Followers can anchor to someone who has these qualities.
Good leaders have high self-regard “Know it Alls” are not good leaders…they alienate people. A good leader will know their strengths and more importantly, their weaknesses and they will shore up their team with those who can fill the gaps with skills in those areas.
Good leaders balance their lives and well as their business. The fact is, if you have any imbalance in your life, your business world will suffer and vice-versa. You can’t be a workaholic and be successful. One or the other will always suffer so good leaders work at keeping the balance. They are happier, in a more stable place and are more consistent in their approach to situations
Good leaders are straightforward and very aware. They know their values and beliefs and they stand on them. They are unafraid to voice an opinion, no matter what the result may be.
They work hard at staying composed under pressure and they do not lose control in difficult circumstances.
Successful leaders take action. They make good decisions after careful analysis and have a track record of doing so. They also take into account the views and respect opinions of others. Once they decide on a course of action, they don’t give up easy and they know that the follow-though is a critical part of the decision-making process.
Once a decision is made, they immediately execute. Imperfect action! They take action and evaluate the effectiveness of the decision and make corrections using both the mistakes and the successes to move forward.
Good leaders are optimistic, enthusiastic and ready for action at all times. They bring this to their team and allow them to grow within the team as individuals. They get everyone involved and utilize everyone’s skills to make a more effective whole.
One thing that it is important to being a good leader is being tough-minded and being resilient when they are dealing with difficult situations and obstacles that get in the way of them reaching their desired outcome. They preserve and use discipline to accomplish. They welcome challenge and handle pressures well. Good leaders are confident in their skin and exude this confidence but are not arrogant about this.
Good leaders are patient. They are aware that things may take time and the evaluation and re-evaluation of decisions take time. They don’t give up or act with impulse because things aren’t going well for them at that moment. They will reanalyze things and make a good decision to move forward again.
Being a good communicator is probably the most important skill of a good leader. If you cannot communicate your opinion clearly, then no one can follow. The path will not be clear. They cannot visually follow your path so they can’t take the step required to follow.
Know your leadership skills and work on being a better leader every day. You don’t have to be in business to be a good leader. Be the leader of your own life. Bring more value to your own life.
Balance yourself and remember….everything that you think about becomes your reality.
Think about that reality. Is it what you want? Make the change today to change your destiny because you can do it one step at a time. One moment at a time. Every moment counts.
Be the leader you know that you can be.
Pay attention to the people you talk to and work with and move within your personal sphere.
Be responsible
Show integrity
Be emphatic
Be assertive (not arrogant)
Be optimistic
Fly your own colours because you should always shine your light on the world. You are worth it and being a good leader of your own life is a start.
Being a good leader is a responsibility that we should all take very seriously because we influence people every day and it is our obligation to be good and never to use leadership powers for evil or to hurt anyone.
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Legitimate Home Based Business - A Story of Success
February 24th, 2010Want to have a lucrative home business but are afraid to try?—–failed before?…I know the feeling!
It is a minefield out there to be sure but it can also be the most lucrative thing that you have ever done. Most people fail, actually about 95%, because they get off on the wrong foot right from the get go. So many people I met along the way that were just trying to improve their lot in life went away with a very sour taste in their mouth. I stayed in the game and made it through to the other side.
Was it easy? No, it certainly was not. Not until I found the perfect storm; The right Opportunity, The Right Training, the Right Support and above all someone who actually knew what they were doing and could train me in all aspects of the industry!
I started out with a high end business opportunity in a field that I am an expert in - Personal and Emotional Intelligence. What I didn’t know was the marketing side and that is where my train went off the rails. After some initial success, I quickly was in a quandary as to where to find more people to join my business. I was a coach and my coaching students were already paying me….. I needed to find new people and unfortunately for me, there wasn’t good training with the opportunity I was involved with so I was left to my own devices. I almost threw in the towel bit I have as stubborn streak.
I write a lot and it was only natural for me to pursue the blogging path. That was my salvation! I got very good at it, started attracting people to my blog and business and away I went again.
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What Defines a Legitimate Home Based Business?
February 22nd, 2010So you want to fire your boss but are scared silly of all the hype and half truths lying in wait to take your money?
It is a jungle out there and finding a legitimate home business opportunity can be a difficult task especially if you want to work on the Internet and not carry inventory or have sales parties or trade shows.
So what defines a legitimate home business anyway?
This is going to be different things to different people and whether or not you are experienced at all or just a beginner in this industry. If you are just starting out you need to be very careful and tread lightly.
The most important factor is will I make any money doing this?
Here are some suggestions to get you to think about this in a different frame.
First things first – Check all Scam Alerts – that will not give the all the information but it will tell you if there are problems with people not making money. If you come across something that has pages of bad press, better to steer clear!
Secondly, if you need help getting started is there some formal training supplied and are there any mentors or successful people you could get help from if you need it….when you need it!
Remember, it is your money you are giving them and don’t get intimidated by them telling you they are doing you the favour.
Don’t fall for any bully marketing tactics! Any reputable company will understand your concerns and be ready to help you make a good decision. This should be your first warning bell….trying to get into your pocket on an impulse buy for huge dollars.
DO NOT DO THIS UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE!
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What kind of products or services do they offer?
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Would it appeal to a wide variety of people to get the widest margins or is it a small market defined product?
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Is this something you believe in and can see yourself marketing?
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What do they have in the way of marketing resources?
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What does the presentation sound like? Does it sound just too easy and unbelievable or does it ring with truth?
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Do they want large amounts of money up front or do they have a business plan you can follow to meet your experience and your budget?
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Did you feel comfortable when you were in conversation with one of the representatives?
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Were they forthcoming when you asked questions?
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Are you restricted to depending on your sponsor?
These questions are just a start. Do your due diligence and make sure that what you are looking at is something that you can actually do. Too many people come into this industry with pie in the sky, stars in their eyes and lose considerable sums of cash in the process.
I was involved with a few opportunities prior to settling on the one that made me all my money, not only from the legitimate product base they had to offer but with the specialized training and support offered, I was able to get all of my businesses in substantial profit in a very short period of time.
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How DO You Make Money Using the Internet?
February 14th, 2010How Can I Get Rich? Good Question!
February 14th, 2010About a third of us think we will get rich someway. And more than a few of us believe a ticket out of our workaday financial worries will have lottery numbers printed on it or starting a home business
In this land of opportunity, Americans and Canadians alike may believe that it’s harder to get rich than it used to be. But when asked about the likelihood of getting rich personally, about one-third say it’s very or somewhat likely that they will attain wealth because of their work, investments, inheritance or good luck.
On the other hand, 63% say it’s not too likely or not at all likely they’ll get rich. Just 2% volunteered that they’re already rich.
How to get rich
Surveys say: One-fifth of Americans believe that starting a business is the most likely way to get rich today.
History supports that belief. Most self-made millionaires are small-business owners, says Greg McBride, Bankrate.com’s senior financial analyst.
Choosing a high-paying job or career comes in second (19%) as the most likely path to getting rich.
With this economy, many people are turning to the Internet to find riches and are sorely disappointed. Somehow people don’t think that those anonymous tipsters in our junk mail cannot possibly be unscrupulous thieves just looking for the next sucker.
There have documented been significant losses for people who could ill afford those losses trying to strike it rich in the many get rich schemes and money for no work scenarios played out every day.
Can you make money working from the comfort of your home?
Can you find a legitimate company that delivers exactly what they say?
Yes you can!
What you need to have is a little education on the industry, what to expect, how to discern reality from pick pockets and a good, caring mentor that can help you.
Remember what Grandma told you….Nothing worthwhile comes for free or without work. In Home Business, that is very true. Even surveys or data entry positions that get advertised as a quick fix aren’t that easy. Do you qualify for the survey returns? Are you the right demographic? If not you will be applying to thousands of sites to receive nothing in return.
There are several new “freebie” sites popping up all over touting if you market their wares they will give you a commission, all you have to do is get a few friends to jump on board with you.
In the industry we call this the NFL….No Friends Left Club. You may not have heard of it yet because you are new and don’t understand that many of these companies have be reinventing themselves for over forty years. Regurgitated time after time to send a message to your subconscious…If that little old lady (whoever she might be) can do it….so can I. If that youngster over there can do it….so can I? Never asking yourself, not even once…are these real people? Are they just like me, new to the industry or are they the snake oil salesmen shills, just waiting to pounce on my money.
We are good human beings and believe that everyone is the same because if not, wouldn’t someone have stopped them?
If they aren’t telling the truth how come they can advertise on the Internet with such authority?
Here it gets simple. Yes, the FTC has put forth an effort to get these people off the Internet and as complaints are lodged they do go after them but just like weeds or viruses, they simply crawl back again to destroy the integrity and livelihood of the companies that ARE legitimate and DO have value to offer.
It is buyer beware. It is unsettling. It is difficult not to get caught in these carefully placed webs of deceit.
How do you find a legitimate Home Based Business Opportunity?
How do you find a good Internet business?
You are going to need a little help.
First it goes without saying…if it looks too good to be true it is.
A reputable company will not request money upfront to see their product or to offer you a consult..no matter what their reasons might be. They are just trying to get money up front because they know there is a 90-95 percent failure rate and want some cash BEFORE you find that out. They know a little cash is better than nothing so they have little fees that add up with volume.
Be careful of FREE TRIALS - they are just another backdoor method to get money and ALWAYS read the terms and conditions to find out when they will charge your credit card, cancellation terms and ensure the name they have given you for questions or complaints actually is valid. You may have found out you have ALSO subscribed to some newsletter that will only cost 5 or 6 bucks. Not something anyone would complain about but add that up over thousands of people and they are raking in the cash.
These companies rely on the fact that you can’t be bothered or will give up for such a small sum. They may even threaten to put you on a blacklist of “bad” consumers.
If there is a complaint from a consumer, you will soon find out that the authorities are coming after you as your name is front and center on that replicated site they gave you and they are nowhere to be found!
DON’T BE A VICTIM!
If you are new to the Internet opportunity business or want to make some extra money working from home. GREAT, it is a good industry and you can make tons of money, I do.
It took a few dodges and weaves to navigate these treacherous waters. I didn’t come out of it unscathed but I do know the good from the bad and ugly.
Call me anytime for more information or travel over to my site to find some good legitimate business opportunities that will make you money and I can and will help you get set up with whatever you choose.
Read my warnings and take heed. I am here to help you but you have to listen to reason. NOTHING is as easy as it looks. I am an accomplished, successful online marketer and know the ropes. I didn’t get here overnight and neither will you but you can shorten the learning curve, get into profit quickly and not lose more than you make.
The average time from zero to Internet mogul is 5-10 years unless you have a list of millions of people who you personally know will purchase from you. If you ate starting from new, then it can be an uphill battle. There is an easier way and if you are coach-able and will follow a proven path, then you will be making money this month.
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Seize Your Day! Making Habit Changes
February 4th, 2010
Good morning everyone and welcome to Seize Your Day. It is another fine day in our neighbourhood. It is also Thursday. Almost the end of the week and you have to ask yourself…
- Did I deliver on my week?
- Did I make it all count?
- Did I work at my personal best?
- Do I feel lost and despondent?
- Do I feel invigorated and enthusiastic?
- Am I hiding out and hoping no one notices me?
Each and every week we will run the gambit of emotions and feelings towards our work, that’s because most of us still think of this as work.
- Ugh, I have to write that blog post,
- Ugh, I have to place an ad.
- Ugh, I have to research my keywords.
- Ugh, Ugh, Ugh
Let’s get a better perspective.
I received an e-mail from one of my teammates who said…”Well, I am now ready to write my blog.” He has been here for a while and has finally got his perspective in alignment with his wants. He figured out the puzzle. The puzzle. A fun, interesting, intriguing puzzle. Not work or drudgery but a puzzle.
He took step by sure step at his own pace and is now ready to advance confidently forward. Now, that is not to say he didn’t try a blog post before, he did, but now he has simply connected all the dots along the path and now has alignment with all the pieces of the puzzle and sees what he needs to in order to produce quality words.
Words that will entice his target audience to listen. He now knows through our training, who they are!
It took some research and some skill development, some starts and stumbles but, he never lost sight of the reason he decided one day that he was going to be a master entrepreneur. He chose a piece of the puzzle, worked through any issues then placed the piece and now is ready for the next piece. He worked out his own rhythm and flow toward his success; He created his own pattern and path.
Five years ago, I started a project to help cancer patients with a little program and foundation called Marq’s Angels. Five years of research and development of studying and watching of begging and pleading, to see it become a standard in patient care. A little program now three top cancer care facilities. Three? That’s not very many, right? Do I care, no I do not…it is three more than five years ago and 1000’s of people who survived a death sentence a little longer and much better. I could have stopped along the way and said, “I gave it a try but no one wanted to listen.” I could have said, “I did the best I could but it just wasn’t meant to be.” To me it became an intriguing puzzle to be solved and I thought every day, just one more piece, just one more and then another until one person listened and then another. And I am on my way to creating something that five years ago looked impossible. “Too new age.” “Too untraditional.” “No foundation in medicine.” To…. “Well I’ll be darned, this just might work.” “Let’s take another look.” “Let’s use is as part of our protocol.”
The fruits of my labour are not my ego and my program but the families and the people who are now uniting to help more people, one person at a time. Just like we build our businesses and our lives… one person, one level at a time.
We have to find the right lever for change and we discussed this a bit on Tuesday. I gave you some homework for you to make some internal analysis of you.
- Recognizing that things are out of alignment.
- Discovering where the change really needs to take place
- Getting back into alignment
All of this is to allow you to gather and structure information and sift through everything coming at you and take out what you need to progress and let the other stuff go flittering away in the wind.
Stop reading stupid things and watching mind numbing TV, and instead use your time more efficiently. We have so little time to make our mark, to achieve our personal best, to be all who we can be; we cannot waste a single moment in our pursuit.
- This will help you to build relationships with people close to you and your business partners
- It will improve your performance and help you work at your personal best and to develop leadership skills and confidence in yourself.
So we have to look at what supports us or hinders us.
We look at our environment, our behaviour, our capabilities, our beliefs and values, how we define ourselves, and what our purpose is.
If our purpose is not strong, we are likely waver. It is like this…if I have a good paying job and I am reasonably satisfied, I am not likely to really pursue anything else unless the environment changes.
If I have a strong desire to work for myself and I have taken the time to assess the risks and rewards and aligned those values I will still have to do some further investigation to ensure everything is in perfect alignment to achieve success.
After I have established that my why, my purpose is strong, my desire is great, then I have to look at the other variables.
My Environment
- Where do I work best?
- What kind of environment might be best, minimalist, modern or traditional?
- What kind of people do I have around me to support or thwart my efforts?
- What time of day do I feel good and energized, morning lark or night owl?
Questions like these will give you the right kind of data so you can decide what environment issues you may need to work on to align things for success.
We also have to access our behaviour patterns. This is all about what you say and do. What you consciously, actually do. Because we know that what we think about will create actions, this is also about what we think as well as our actions. All your behaviour must be aimed at your purpose and have a positive intention for you.
Change at the behavioural level is easy to make when you have a real sense of purpose. It fits with your sense of identity and your beliefs and values.
Some questions we need to ask ourselves are
- Do my behaviours fit with the sense of who I am?
- What do I do that makes it interesting and fun?
- What do I find myself saying habitually? Can I see any patterns? Is there monkey hatter or clear thoughts that align me with my objective, goals and desired outcomes?
- What do I notice about other people’s worlds and sayings? Do I allow people to negatively impact me and how does that affect my decisions?
- Do I allow undue influence or do I analyze things in perspective?
- How aware am I of other people’s behaviour? How they walk, the tome of their voice, their smile their confidence?
- How does my breathing change and when?
- What body language do I adopt in different situations, particularly stressful events?
- What do I sound like?
These are the kinds of questions that you require the answers to, not just in business but to be successful in life.
***To be a person who knows at their core that nothing can get under your skin and if it does, you easily shift back to balance. You are a Shaolin Monk., calm, centered, breathing easily and deeply, relaxed and confident in your own skin.
In order to create positive change, you must develop the habits and behaviours that serve you well. We have been heat seeking missiles these past weeks honing in on a habit we want to create or break and you should be right there, right now. It should be second nature and part of who you are, right now.
Is it?
Have you put in the effort?
Remember that even small changes, almost insignificant changes have incremental effect. If you are slimming to fit into the skinny jeans then eating a salad each day instead of a sandwich is one step and will become a way of eating and being if you do it every single day.
Building a business, making one change that will get you closer to your goal, one more call, when you just don’t feel like it, one more stab at that blog post, 15 more minutes dedicated to setting you free.
Clear SMART goals, a beginning and an end. Know the parameters and testing the limits.
The one thing I gave you at the beginning of this journey was your journal or victory log. Writing in that every day. When we have trouble establishing goals and keeping promises to ourselves, that is a great first step, just write your feelings about the day, what you did and didn’t do. How you felt about it and make sure you write every single day.
When you go back to the beginning of every week, you will see progression that will move you and give you momentum going into the next week. Before you know it, you will have new skills, more resolve and determination and be able to persevere when before you gave up. It is easy in small steps.
Practicing the right behaviours until they become habitual.
This will increase your capabilities. Oh, I know you are sitting there going, it can’t be that simple, but that is just monkey chatter at its best. It is that simple. No one is good at anything, except maybe prodigies, but even they practice their art. We have to do that too. We must take our natural talent and desire and layer it upon layer of dedicated practice and have a willingness to go that extra mile.
We all have people we look up to and usually we see something in them that we would like to be or have. Walk a mile in their shoes. Take a piece of them with you. Emulate who they are, what they do and soon you won’t see a difference, you will be that and who you wish to be and then you will look further and seek to be better because we never stop growing, we always have another rung on our ladders and we all can contribute to others who may be looking up at us.
Okay, so what about those unwanted behaviours, the things you do and don’t wish to do? This is like smoking or bad eating habits or making bad working choices. They are harder for you because they are linked to other higher logical levels involving beliefs or how you define yourself.
I will give you some examples of self talk that your mind will establish as an absolute.
I am a smoker - Identity
I need to eat when I get stressed - a statement of belief
She is strong - environmental identity and imposed belief
I can’t live on salad and fruit - belief.
I am short, I am dumb. I can’t spell- How you define yourself will determine who you become. Who you are right now.
I am strong. I can handle anything. I am a great writer. I can talk a blue streak. I can do 15 more minutes, it is easy. That salad is delicious I am going to have it tomorrow too. I am thin. I don’t smoke. I never sweat. I live with purpose. I give more than i receive. I don’t know the meaning of can’t, in fact is that even a word?
I am exactly who I want to be.
How do you talk to yourself and others? How do you talk to your children? What do other people think about you by how you talk, act or react? There are no monsters in the closet or demons under the bed. It feels real and you are sure it is…failure, is surely looming on your horizon. If you are doing everything in your power to reinforce that belief…failure is sitting there waiting for you. Take a different path.
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What are you changing, what has changed, why and how has it affected you or others around you?
How is the habit busting or creating going? Did you falter? Did you succeed? Are you being honest with yourself? We can lie to anyone and everyone….we cannot deceive ourselves.
If you are living with doubt, fear, anxiety, have self-esteem issues or lack confidence, now is the time to align yourself with your desires and put forth the effort to bring a smackdown on anything that is holding you back.
Your power for today is just this:
If I can dream it I have everything I need to achieve it.
Dream it and achieve it, one small step at a time. One drop in a bucket day after day fills the pail to overflowing replacing the air that was there before. So it will be with your mind and your life if you keep putting one drop of positive after the other the negative will have nowhere to reside inside you.
Your internal power. Can’t be bought, stolen or given.
It resides inside you just waiting for you to give it light.














